Ever since I found out the girl eats the food behind us, I have been very cold to her. I made her pack her own bag to school. I said No to all the requests that she asked. I did not hug her. I did not talk to her. I scolded her for small little thing. Sigh, I just can't help it. Besides getting mad at her, I also feel heart broken at the same time as she did not feel sorry about what she has done. As if she has done nothing wrong. She still plays with the boy as usual. She still asks for this and that.
Last night, I read a book, about this man who is 40 years of age, consider successful in his life. He loves rodeo and has been winning a lots and thus become famous. However that is not what his parents want. His parents work in the military and his father always wanted him to be in the military as well. But military is just not in his blood. Thus he did not have a very good relationship with his parent. At 40 years old, suddenly he found out that he is not his parents' biological child. His mother took him from the hospital when she found out her newborn son has died. He is shock at the truth and he does not know how to cope and does not know how to face his biological parents. The biological parents have 4 children, 3 sons and 1 daughter. The other 2 sons have died so only left this son. They are hoping to see him. One side is someone who actually has no relationship with him but has raised him up and with him for the past 40 years. Another side is his actual parents but know nothing about him for the past 40 years.
I turned to look at the gal who was sleeping soundly next to my bed. For a moment, I feel like want to hug her and kiss her. She looks so beautiful when sleeping. Sometimes she's like an angel to me; help me taking care of the boy so well. But when she becomes an evil, she made me so mad that I just feel like want to strangulate her and throw her out. Sigh I wish I can be more patient with her. This morning when I woke up, when I saw her face I back to the bad mommy mood again. Sometimes I feel defeated, don't know how to deal with her. We have tried different ways, but seems like all are not working. Sigh. It is so difficult to be a good parent.
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Wednesday, January 12, 2011
Monday, January 10, 2011
2 big rats at home
I was mad to my 4yo during last weekend. I have been telling her same thing again and again, but after a while, she reverts back to the bad habit.
During weekend when the kids are at home, they will keep on asking me for food, non-stop, like every half an hour. Usually I will allow them to take the food, but sometimes I do say no. Or sometimes I feel they have been eaten too much, I will say no too, but will tell them they can have it later, or the next day. Last weekend as usual, the gal asked me for yogurt. And I said yes to her. But the next day I found out that, both of them finished 4 yogurts. Normally I will just allow one at a time. They can have the other one the next day. In addition, I found that all those chocolate that we brought back from wedding reception, are all gone. And she never seek permission before eating those chocolate. I always discourage them to eat chocolate (except chocolate milk and chocolate flavour ice cream). The most I only give them maximum once a week. Past experiences have shown that each time after they take the chocolate, they will have constipation. Guarantee. Thus I avoid let them eat chocolate. Then right after they have their bread with butter and half boil egg, hubby found that they were eating cheese slice, again without asking for permission first! And later in the afternoon, hubby told me, one pack of the cheese slice have finished. It was just opened a week before. This is not the first time such things happen, that both of them have eaten lots of snacks without asking us.
I feel so upset. Not only she set a wrong example to her brother there, she is also making her brother eating so much junk food in between meals. They are not hungry. They just like to eat those snacks. She shares the food with her brother and leaves nothing for us! They have finished the yogurt; they also have finished the chocolate. However each time when we are eating, especially me, they will sure come to me asking me for food! I was very mad at her actually. And I feel so disappointed. It's not that I don't let her eat, but just want her to eat moderately. I did not talk to her for the rest of the day. I told hubby, maybe we should consider getting a lock for the fridge.
During weekend when the kids are at home, they will keep on asking me for food, non-stop, like every half an hour. Usually I will allow them to take the food, but sometimes I do say no. Or sometimes I feel they have been eaten too much, I will say no too, but will tell them they can have it later, or the next day. Last weekend as usual, the gal asked me for yogurt. And I said yes to her. But the next day I found out that, both of them finished 4 yogurts. Normally I will just allow one at a time. They can have the other one the next day. In addition, I found that all those chocolate that we brought back from wedding reception, are all gone. And she never seek permission before eating those chocolate. I always discourage them to eat chocolate (except chocolate milk and chocolate flavour ice cream). The most I only give them maximum once a week. Past experiences have shown that each time after they take the chocolate, they will have constipation. Guarantee. Thus I avoid let them eat chocolate. Then right after they have their bread with butter and half boil egg, hubby found that they were eating cheese slice, again without asking for permission first! And later in the afternoon, hubby told me, one pack of the cheese slice have finished. It was just opened a week before. This is not the first time such things happen, that both of them have eaten lots of snacks without asking us.
I feel so upset. Not only she set a wrong example to her brother there, she is also making her brother eating so much junk food in between meals. They are not hungry. They just like to eat those snacks. She shares the food with her brother and leaves nothing for us! They have finished the yogurt; they also have finished the chocolate. However each time when we are eating, especially me, they will sure come to me asking me for food! I was very mad at her actually. And I feel so disappointed. It's not that I don't let her eat, but just want her to eat moderately. I did not talk to her for the rest of the day. I told hubby, maybe we should consider getting a lock for the fridge.
Tuesday, July 13, 2010
Stories of a Grandma with her Grandchildren
Grandma has 2 sons and 4 grandchildren, 2 from each son. Whenever grandma meets her grand daughter, she would surely "remind" her that she has no manners.
One Sunday evening, grand daughter was meeting uncle, aunty, grandma and her cousins. She was so happy the moment she saw them. As usual, she greeted every one of them.
Grand daughter: Aunty, you see I'm so pretty (showing off her beautiful dress).
Grandma: Pretty has no use. It'll better if you have good manner.
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Story 2
During dinner, papa ordered banana milk for grand daughter and grand son. Uncle chose to have tea together with Grandma. Not too long after that, the drink was being served to everyone. Grand daughter took a sip of the banana milk and she loves it. She also offered it to her brother, before putting it down on the table while waiting for the food.
One moment later, grand daughter realized her drink had gone missing.
Grand daughter: Ei? Where is my banana milk?
Mama saw uncle was taking a sip of the banana milk. It seems that uncle wanted to taste it. He put it back right after that.
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Story3
It was a Sunday evening. Grandma, papa, mama, uncle and 2 grandchildren were dining out. It was a traditional Korean food, with various side dishes were served. One of them was this meat ball. However there were only 4 meat balls for all 4 adults and 2 children.
Grand daughter: Mama, I want the meat ball.
Mama took one meat ball and gave to her.
After grand daughter finished the meat ball, she wanted some more. So she asked her mama again.
Grand daughter: Mama, can I have some more meat ball please?
Mama: No, you have your share already. Mama has given you one. Grandma, uncle and papa still not yet have eaten the meat ball. We have to share the food.
Grand daughter loves meat ball. She wanted more of it. So she continued pestering mama for it.
Grand daughter: Mama, can I have some more meat ball please?
Mama: No.... others have not yet eaten.... mama gives you other food ok? How about some eggs?
Grand daughter: I don't want egg. I want meat ball.
Grandma and uncle overheard the grand daughter asked for the meat ball.
Uncle: You want meat ball? Never mind just take it.
Grandma: Yeah, just take it.
Uncle: Come, uncle takes for you. (Took one meat ball and put on grand daughter's bowl.)
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Story 4
Kids were playing on their place while waiting for the food at the dinner table; standing on the chair, playing loudly. It was a public place at a restaurant, thinking that the children may disturb other guests in the restaurant; mama had to keep on reminding the children to behave and play quietly. Also it is not save to stand on a chair, also not the right thing to do, mama also keep on asking the children to sit down. However despite numerous reminders, the children still keep on standing and playing loudly. Papa become annoyed and raised his voice to the children. Grandma and uncle think papa should not raise his voice in the public. But without raising voice, the children won't behave.
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Story 5
Grand daughter always like to sit with aunty whenever they are having dinner together outside. Grandma wanted to take picture with aunty and grand son. Not sure how, grandma took over grand daughter's place. When grand daughter realized her place got taken, she wanted it back.
Grand daughter: Hey this is my place! I want to sit here.
Grandma: Grandma just wants to take picture with aunty for a while. Can you sit over there first?
Grand daughter: Don't want. I want to sit here. I don't want to sit there. (Worrying that she does not get to sit with aunty anymore.)
Grandma: We just want to take photo, it won't take long. You sit over there first, ok?
Grand daughter: No, I want to sit here. (It was a long bench. She tried to squeeze herself thought to reach her place.)
Grandma was not happy about it.
Grandma: No manners! (And put a black face to the grand daughter.)
Mama asked grand daughter to sit with her and apologize to grandma.
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Story 6
Grand daughter no. 2 is still a baby, about 10 months old. Since she can't take much adult food yet, most of the time she would be sitting on the high chair and watches the adults eating. Sometimes she would feel boring and make some noise to complain. She likes to play with her lips. During one of the dinner session, she was playing with her lips, spouting the saliva loudly and non-stop. Grandma thought she was being funny and went over to play with her. So the grand daughter continued spouting the saliva, making "buuuuu..... buuuu....." sounds there.
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Story 1
One Sunday evening, grand daughter was meeting uncle, aunty, grandma and her cousins. She was so happy the moment she saw them. As usual, she greeted every one of them.
Grand daughter: Aunty, you see I'm so pretty (showing off her beautiful dress).
Grandma: Pretty has no use. It'll better if you have good manner.
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Story 2
During dinner, papa ordered banana milk for grand daughter and grand son. Uncle chose to have tea together with Grandma. Not too long after that, the drink was being served to everyone. Grand daughter took a sip of the banana milk and she loves it. She also offered it to her brother, before putting it down on the table while waiting for the food.
One moment later, grand daughter realized her drink had gone missing.
Grand daughter: Ei? Where is my banana milk?
Mama saw uncle was taking a sip of the banana milk. It seems that uncle wanted to taste it. He put it back right after that.
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Story3
It was a Sunday evening. Grandma, papa, mama, uncle and 2 grandchildren were dining out. It was a traditional Korean food, with various side dishes were served. One of them was this meat ball. However there were only 4 meat balls for all 4 adults and 2 children.
Grand daughter: Mama, I want the meat ball.
Mama took one meat ball and gave to her.
After grand daughter finished the meat ball, she wanted some more. So she asked her mama again.
Grand daughter: Mama, can I have some more meat ball please?
Mama: No, you have your share already. Mama has given you one. Grandma, uncle and papa still not yet have eaten the meat ball. We have to share the food.
Grand daughter loves meat ball. She wanted more of it. So she continued pestering mama for it.
Grand daughter: Mama, can I have some more meat ball please?
Mama: No.... others have not yet eaten.... mama gives you other food ok? How about some eggs?
Grand daughter: I don't want egg. I want meat ball.
Grandma and uncle overheard the grand daughter asked for the meat ball.
Uncle: You want meat ball? Never mind just take it.
Grandma: Yeah, just take it.
Uncle: Come, uncle takes for you. (Took one meat ball and put on grand daughter's bowl.)
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Story 4
Kids were playing on their place while waiting for the food at the dinner table; standing on the chair, playing loudly. It was a public place at a restaurant, thinking that the children may disturb other guests in the restaurant; mama had to keep on reminding the children to behave and play quietly. Also it is not save to stand on a chair, also not the right thing to do, mama also keep on asking the children to sit down. However despite numerous reminders, the children still keep on standing and playing loudly. Papa become annoyed and raised his voice to the children. Grandma and uncle think papa should not raise his voice in the public. But without raising voice, the children won't behave.
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Story 5
Grand daughter always like to sit with aunty whenever they are having dinner together outside. Grandma wanted to take picture with aunty and grand son. Not sure how, grandma took over grand daughter's place. When grand daughter realized her place got taken, she wanted it back.
Grand daughter: Hey this is my place! I want to sit here.
Grandma: Grandma just wants to take picture with aunty for a while. Can you sit over there first?
Grand daughter: Don't want. I want to sit here. I don't want to sit there. (Worrying that she does not get to sit with aunty anymore.)
Grandma: We just want to take photo, it won't take long. You sit over there first, ok?
Grand daughter: No, I want to sit here. (It was a long bench. She tried to squeeze herself thought to reach her place.)
Grandma was not happy about it.
Grandma: No manners! (And put a black face to the grand daughter.)
Mama asked grand daughter to sit with her and apologize to grandma.
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Story 6
Grand daughter no. 2 is still a baby, about 10 months old. Since she can't take much adult food yet, most of the time she would be sitting on the high chair and watches the adults eating. Sometimes she would feel boring and make some noise to complain. She likes to play with her lips. During one of the dinner session, she was playing with her lips, spouting the saliva loudly and non-stop. Grandma thought she was being funny and went over to play with her. So the grand daughter continued spouting the saliva, making "buuuuu..... buuuu....." sounds there.
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