Warning: This is not a nice post. I just want to rant what I'm not happy about in my personal blog here.
Father's day falls on 3rd Sunday in the month of June. Coincident, someone from hb's family the birthday is also falls very close to Father's Day. As hb's father is no longer around, so instead of celebrating Father's Day, we will be celebrating the family birthday together. Last year, due to the birthday, we celebrate Father's Day with my parents and my brother family 3 weeks later.
My SIL just gave birth to her second child. She's still having confinement at home. So this year Father's Day celebration we will be eating at home. My brother was suggesting buy back food so that my mom does not need to cook. As my mom is working on Saturday, and Sunday noon they will be busy with some baby full moon stuff, so my brother has set that we will meet up for dinner. I told hubby about it, and asked him to organize the family birthday dinner to some other day.
So hb called up his family. Right after hb asked if it's ok to have the birthday celebration on the following week, hb got scolded. Firstly, me being blamed being the culprit of this - as the celebration is for my father. Secondly, we are being scolded as "no heart". I was like - WTF. Are we doing wrong want to celebrate Father's Day with my father? Since when we said we are not going to celebrate the birthday with her? Just one week later, cannot wait? Why she's not asking the reasons but scold hb straightaway? And we have no heart? Hb was pissed off. He had to mention the birthday gift that I get Lynn to make for her, to calm her down. No heart? If we really no heart, I can throw away what I have asked Lynn to make. That is no heart.
Because of this storm, hb wanted to excuse himself from the dinner at night, as he needed to settle it. He can't have it bother him for the rest of the week. I feel sad. I can but I dislike going back myself, because I hate to answer when my bro or my SIL asks me where is hb. I got that every time when I go back alone.
I feel she has no respect for us, and now to my family too. During Mother's Day last month, we reached there at 7.30pm (all of us took afternoon nap and I woke up at 6.30pm. Immediately I woke up others to get ready to go out and we left the house at 7pm). When we reached there, we were scolded for being so late "Why so late? You guys are not hungry is it? That's why never think of other people here are so hungry." And we get scolded in front of everyone, including the children. I was like, what? How can you think us like that? Instead asking why we were late (to be honest, I don't think it's very late. First, no time were set on what time we should meet up. It is the usual time we go back), we were being accused of something we never meant to be!
And now Father's Day, the day and time not set by us. Yes we have the right to say no. That's why hb was calling want to ask about it. Secondly, if she wants us to celebrate birthday instead of celebrating the Father's Day, won't that my father will be having same thoughts too? No matter how it's Father's Day! Again, I feel no respect, to my brother and to my father.
Later my mom called me asking why we are not going back. I told her the truth. She was stunned. But she did not get angry about it. Instead she told me, next year we will celebrate Father's Day on different day so there will be no clash. That's make me think - why my mom can be so kind but she can't. When she stops thinking about herself and started to think about others? She always accuses us not thinking about her. Well, if she is more kind and have respect to us, I will be more comfortable doing more to make her happy, which I did before. Unfortunately she has destroyed it. Initially I wanted to get Lynn to hand made a birthday card too. But now I'm not motivated to do more as I feel no respect from her.
